My Story.
I was raised in a home shaped by alcoholism and emotional instability.
From an early age I carried a quiet but persistent sense of abandonment. I learned how to survive.
I learned how to be capable, responsible and strong. Yet underneath that strength I often felt unseen and emotionally unsafe.
For many years I pursued therapy and personal development trying to understand why relationships felt so painful and why my emotional reactions felt so intense. It was only when I was diagnosed with Complex PTSD that everything began to make sense.
That diagnosis did not label me. It gave me relief. It gave me language. It gave me self compassion.
Understanding trauma responses, attachment patterns and the nervous system changed my life.
I realised I was not broken. I was responding exactly as someone shaped by unresolved trauma would.
That understanding became the foundation of my healing.
I now guide heartbroken women over 40 through deep emotional healing so they can release abandonment pain, rebuild their sense of worth and step into their next chapter with stability and clarity.
I do this because I never had someone walking beside me during my own years of confusion.
No woman should have to navigate abandonment alone.
If you are tired of being strong and ready to finally feel safe within yourself, you are in the right place.
My Faith.
There was a season in my life when I explored New Age practices and trained in hypnotherapy and other spiritual modalities.
At that time I was searching for relief from deep emotional pain.
Over time I realised what I truly longed for was peace.
Christianity brought a steady and grounding faith that reshaped my life quietly but profoundly. The anxiety softened. The striving eased.
As my convictions became clear I chose to step away from New Age practices and discontinue hypnotherapy.
My work today is grounded in trauma awareness and psychological understanding.
My Christian faith shapes my integrity, my boundaries and the compassion I bring into every session. It anchors how I hold space. It is never imposed, but it guides who I am.
Professional Training and Standards
As a Trauma Informed Specialist in Abandonment Recovery,
my work is grounded in accredited training, structured psychological frameworks and lived experience.
I began my professional training in Clinical Hypnotherapy with the London College of Clinical Hypnotherapy at Imperial College London, completing both a Clinical Hypnotherapy Diploma and a Cognitive Behavioral Hypnotherapy Diploma, alongside EFT Levels 1 and 2 and holistic therapeutic studies.
As my understanding of trauma deepened, I made the decision to move away from hypnotherapy and New Age modalities and focus exclusively on trauma aware, psychologically grounded coaching methods.
I hold ICF aligned coaching accreditation and am accredited in Core Renewal Therapy, an integrative model drawing from Cognitive Behavioral and Dialectical Behavioral approaches. My work integrates trauma informed principles, nervous system regulation, attachment awareness, inner child integration, breathwork, somatic movement, mindfulness and existential coaching.
I maintain professional indemnity insurance and commit to ongoing professional development.
I also have access to senior mentor consultation through Coaching Masters to ensure ethical practice and continued growth.
I work strictly within coaching scope and refer to clinical services where appropriate. My focus is helping women understand the impact of emotional abandonment, regulate trauma responses and rebuild a stable internal foundation for healthy relationships.
A Note on Our Work Together:
While my coaching is trauma-informed and rooted in lived experience, it is not a substitute for professional mental health care, medical advice, or clinical therapy. I am a coach, not a licensed psychologist or medical doctor. If you are currently in crisis or requiring clinical psychiatric intervention, please consult with a qualified medical professional.
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